Book Review: Cheryl Mendelson on Mastering Homemaking

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I’m a self-proclaimed Martha Stewart fan, and it’s not because I subscribe to the idea that a woman’s place is in the home; nor should women be the sole person responsible for the health and happiness of the entire household. I’ve just always relished the idea of having a clean and comfortable home filled with things that fill me with joy.

There’s a strange satisfaction that comes with cleaning and organizing that comes with completing even the smallest of domestic tasks. It’s a feeling that I always felt existed in opposition to my desire to pay attention to my career. How does a workaholic like me reconcile the urge to be domestic as well? Is it possible to be both?

While Martha Stewart launched a successful business and television career, lawyer Cheryl Mendelson used her passion for all things domestic to launch her writing career with the two volumes of housekeeping hints of biblical proportions. Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House is a meticulously researched and detailed guide for serious home-keepers who believe in the power of a clean and orderly house.

Note I use the word “home-keeping”, and I use it deliberately: this book is not about how to speed clean your home, or taking domestic shortcuts. Mendelson has amassed an encyclopedia on virtually everything you wanted to know about housekeeping and were afraid to ask. Food storage, linen care, even musical instrument maintenance all make appearances on the veritable laundry list (excuse the pun) of subjects covered by Home Comforts.

This might seem to be a strange subject to write about for someone with a career in law, but Mendelson argues both that her demanding schedule and strong domestic background fuelled her need for keeping an orderly house as an independent adult. Her solutions are practical and yet seem rooted in a more romantic time, where homes were seen as places for families and individuals to flourish and grow instead of storage facilities to keep an increasing amount of meaningless possessions.

A client of mine referred to me this manual for some housekeeping issues that I was having and I was so in love with it that my own copy is being shipped as I type this post. I’m looking forward to creating a new approach to cleaning based on some of her methods. Some people may choose to take or leave her advice if they are happy with their existing routines, but I would recommend reading it anyway. The material is so extensive there’s something there to excite novices and experts alike. For those who think they know everything anyway, they may want to check out her other manual (remember I said she had two?) titled Laundry: The Home Comforts Book of Caring for Clothes and Linens. Three guesses as to what it’s about, and the first two don’t count.

Finally, for all of ye nay-sayers who are reading this and scoffing at the idea of housework as being a vital part of our existence, consider this quotation from Mendelson:

“Housekeeping creates cleanliness, order, regularity, beauty, the conditions for health and safety, and a good place to do and feel all the things you wish and need to do and feel in your home.”

Now that’s one smart lawyer.

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Julie Morgenstern and The Power of the Quiet Hour

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Working at a doctor’s office is kind of like getting a lesson on how to work with constant interruptions. There are phone calls that need to be made, phone calls that need to received, paperwork that needs filing, faxes that need attention…and did I mention that all of this is done while processing patients and assisting the doctor with his exams?

Even if you don’t work at a doctor’s office, this scenario probably sounds familiar. Our workplaces, no matter where they are, can be a constant source of interruption. Sometimes this interruptions are welcome, especially if you can get stuck on a project like me and start to become hyper-focused. But for most us, we need those uninterrupted chunks of time so we can at least feel like we’re getting some kind of work done. There’s nothing more disheartening than spending two hours chugging through your email inbox only to realize you’ve only managed to answer five messages.

I was starting to feel recently like I was working, working, working and never getting anything done until I revisited professional organizer Julie Morgenstern’s body of work. She was Oprah’s organizing guru way back when and her unique time management system still attracts a large number of followers even decades later.

As an organization-obsessed teenager, my introduction to Morgenstern was actually through a book she co-authored with her (then) teenage daughter called Organizing from the Inside Out for Teens. (Incidentally, also a really good book for high school and post-secondary students to check out. Don’t let the title fool you. There are lots of juicy tidbits for adults in there as well).

An undisclosed number of years later, I picked up the original version of Julie Morgenstern’s book Organizing from the Inside Out, and another one called Never Check Email in the Morning (which has since been republished as Time Management from the Inside Out). A lot of the concepts I recognized from my teens, but this time around they were better adapted for the lifestyle of an independent, working adult. Although a lot of the content is targeted at office workers looking to improve their working style, I still think that a lot of Morgenstern’s suggestions can apply to anyone. Did the title Never Check Email in the Morning appeal to you? It appealed to me too.

What I’ve started to put in place, however, is Morgenstern’s idea of “The Quiet Hour”. It’s not necessarily an original idea, but the implementation of this small adjustment to my schedule has been so powerful that I had to share it with you. So many of our ideas surrounding time management involve doing more, and multi-tasking more in order to feel like we’re getting more done. But trying to balance several projects at once, as well as monitoring incoming phone calls and emails can not only be seen as inefficient, it lowers your productivity.

Have you experienced the pain and frustration of running around like a chicken with its head cut-off? Me too. That’s why you need “The Quiet Hour”. It’s the practice of putting aside an hour of uninterrupted time every day- this means no social media, no cell phones, no Internet, no nothing. Imagine: sixty minutes of solid “radio silence” to give you the space in your head and in your schedule to get done whatever it is that you need to get done. It’s a great solution no matter the task at hand- whether it means giving yourself that extra hour to push towards that deadline, or because you need to carve out time in your schedule for an in-depth project that requires all of your concentration.

Morgenstern mentions that some of the offices that she’s worked with in the past have adopted this universally into their office culture. Others, however, may find it difficult to stay away interruptions for a whole hour every single workday. I’m trying not to put pressure on myself to stick to a strict one hour a day schedule. Even setting aside half an hour to brainstorm a project, crunch some numbers, or power through a list of to-dos that you’ve putting off has proved to be an incredibly powerful practice. Find it hard to sit still for a whole hour? Put yourself on a timer and reward yourself with a coffee break when your time is up.

I’m always looking for creative ways to find more room in my schedule, and Organizing from the Inside Out and Time Management from the Inside Out definitely do not disappoint when it comes to time-saving tips. For a more in-depth look at why we organize, don’t forget to check out When Organizing Isn’t Enough.

Do you like Julie Morgenstern’s work as much as I do? Have any tips to help find room in your schedule? Share them with the group by commenting below!

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Psst- wanna see which books have previously graced my bookshelves? Click here. Want even more fun reading recommendations? I’ve got some for you here. Don’t forget to find me on Goodreads so we can snoop each other’s bookshelves and dish about our favourites.

The Literary Snoop

KBB_stack_of_booksThere is one hard truth about people and that is this: people like to snoop.

I think there’s nothing more than people like to do than hear about other people. It doesn’t have to be in a malicious way. We’re just interested in what’s going on in people’s lives- and in their medicine cabinets.

Some people get their fix watching reality shows, or just being a plain gossip, but I get my jollies in a slightly different way.

I snoop bookshelves.

Part of my excuse is that it’s very hard for me to see words anywhere without automatically reading them, which is why you’ll catch me reading over your shoulder on the bus or on the subway. I don’t mean to pry. I just can’t be near a written word without reading it.

You may have guessed this already, but here’s my official confession anyways: I am a literary snoop.

Case in point: two of my good friends moved a while back and in a gesture of good-friendliness I volunteered to help out. By the time I had gotten off of work they had moved all the furniture and boxes into the rooms and now all that was left to do was unpack.

I stood with my friend in his room, surveying the garbage bags full of clothes, the mattress still leaning against the wall and the general clutter that comes with moving all of your belongings willy-nilly into one room. We looked at all the boxes. We looked at each other. I asked, “Do you want to unpack your books?”

And we did- all twenty-three boxes of them. My friend is also a self-confessed bibliophile and as it turns out, has a collection that’s much bigger and much more varied than my own. You can imagine the fun that we had that afternoon, the kind of sick pleasure we took from realizing that all of his books would have to be double-stacked on his shelves. Even though we were both excited about decorating his new apartment and had endlessly discussed paint colors and the like up until moving day, we just couldn’t stop the conversations that would ensue every time we commented on the books we were pulling out of the boxes, one at a time.

Inevitably, I walked away with a big stack of books that I had borrowed, which is usually the end result of this particular friend and I spending an afternoon together. It is the one benefit to being a literary snoop- I am constantly adding to the growing pile of books stacked next to my bed to read.

And believe me, that stack is ever growing.

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You’ve heard about my dirty secret- maybe you have the same one? Feel free to browse my virtual bookshelves to see what I’ve read and what I’m looking forward to reading on my Goodreads profile. My username is- you guessed it- B. More reading inspiration, click here, or check out my Pinterest Book Board.